Tuesday, October 20, 2009

We Are Here For You

Couples Overcome Adversity Together

Lalei Gutierrez and Philip Belzunce

The number and intensity of stressors affecting couples is growing exponentially. We are seeing economic, financial and health adversities actually “forcing” some couples that would have divorced, to stay together to survive. Their well being - physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health - is being profoundly impacted in ways we’ve never seen before.

We all know that in the lifespan of every significant couple relationship, adversity strikes and shifts their lives to go out of balance. Their relationship can suffer as stressors intensify. Feelings of shame, guilt, anger, fear, sadness, worry, depression become the “virus” that weakens the couple’s relationship, as it becomes the vulnerable place where stresses of life get dumped.

Many couples are at a loss on how to deal with the challenges brought about by such adversities. Their strategies for coping with stress seem to not be working. It feels like they are pulling each other down the harder they try. It can feel like a battle for survival. How sad it is, when a former love becomes a current “enemy”.

Since the culture of western society values individualism, there are more supports available for individuals. It is at these times of stress that a holistic and system perspective is needed, wherein members come together for the overcoming of the whole unit…the couples together, as couples (husband-wife, father-mother, partners, friends, brother-sister, pairings or 2 person systems) are the microcosm of a society and the SEEDING and GROWING of Love.

We have found that during the times of adversity, many of us have been helped by wonderful people and profound moments that touch our inner being as individuals. When these profound moments impact the inner being of the couple system, the exponential transformation of the whole is even more profound.

These people and events can literally lift and carry us through these painful challenges. When this happens, the kindest and most gracious force known to humanity - LOVE has met us.

Love is the strongest force in the world and the most misunderstood….

When love is present, people feel and experience: inordinate energy, joy, well-being and great purpose.

The greatest work for a couple is to consciously commit to their relationship as one of healing love. Their commitment creates a foundation strong enough to weather the storm of life’s adversities, transforming them into a loving force that changes the world! By opening and integrating transformational processes, couples can move forward in their life’s journey – with all its trials and all of its joys!

To learn more about a couple’s transforming, healing love and how to overcome adversity in your relationship, please visit: http://tenpathwaysofhealinglove.com.

With Love and Gratitude –

Lalei

Lalei E. Gutierrez Ph.D., LSMFT, RPE, CPC, is a holistic psychologist, life, relationship and spiritual coach, marriage and family therapist, energetic body process practitioner, and diversity consultant whose coaching, counseling and/or consulting practice reflects her gratitude to serve with a Higher Purpose, individual, couples, families and groups through their life journeys, aspirations, transformative processes and well-being. To learn of her collaborative body-emotion-energy-mind-spirit process and practice (BEEMSS) method, check www.PhilLalei.com, and their e-book for Healing Love relationships www.TenPathwaysofHealingLove.com. (440) 333-4105

1 comment:

  1. The article also present how the fathers involvement for “families whose relationships are at risk because of the hardships of their lives, many of whom are manifesting some degree of individual or relationship.Relationship with XR Jax

    ReplyDelete